Sunday, April 12, 2020

The other social distancing

7 and a half years !

The time it has taken for me to come back to this small place of mine.
Last time I wrote a piece of blog, Sachin was still playing, I didn't have a smartphone or a WhatsApp account, I was on a prepaid 2G connection, meticulously comparing SMS packs and Full Talk Time offers !

I have come back to this long- forgotten small world of mine, to share my experiences with my other social distancing - complete quitting from Facebook and a near-complete quitting from Twitter.  It has been almost 18 months since I have used Facebook and it has been a great journey, so far. Thanks to Radhika for being the trigger !

I would like to share my realisations about social media, all of which occured to me after quitting.

1. It hardly adds any value to life / lifestyle


Myth

I will fall out of fashion. I will not "stay updated".

Reality

The good old newspaper still exists ! Nothing major has happened because I knew About a breaking news a few hours later

Whatsapp - the other big problem in my life, which I will talk about later, ensures that I don't miss out on anything, which my company or family wants me to know.

I don't think I missed out on any news in the last 18 months, except that some of my acquaintances got married / became new parent / switched jobs or cities. I don't feel the urge of knowing about everything that happens in everyone's life anymore.

2. It takes over your thought process

Myth

I am immune ! I will not let social media influence me.

Reality

I feel calm and more positive now. The world feels to be a far better place.

I realised that I felt more rage, anger, false sense of pride, stupid sense of superiority / inferiority . The business model of social networks lies on negative emotions.

3. It kills time

Myth

I spend only my spare time on social media

Reality

It takes away your invaluable personal time, which could have been a very productive time for mind and body.

On an average I used to open Facebook +Twitter apps 20-25 times a day, spending an average of 2 minutes every time.

7 and a half years - I wanted to be "liked" and "shared" . I feared ridicule, not anymore !

11 comments:

  1. Long pending urge.. But anyway I will definitely try to emulate.. And somehow this has reignited my subdued habit of writing articles..

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  2. Truth most of us know..but cannot change thf habbit

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  3. Totes up the pluses and minuses of so called modern socializing. A thoughtful piece on what we need to maintain and follow so as to bring out the best in us. Nice one Sir !

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  4. Excellent write up👌👌
    Really motivating for peoples like me who is ready to quit but wants to ease the transition to a post Facebook life...

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  5. Nice one Vicky :) It’s been close to 5 years I deleted my facebook account and it really did give me lot of time and space to work on some key areas of personal improvement - Vivek V

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  6. A reality check that everyone need!👍👍

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  7. I think I want to be liked or shared has transformed to I want to be read! 😋

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  8. You have put down a few home truths .. whether one wants to accept them or not ! Great read Vignesh and please do keep at it, whenever possible ����

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